May Mental Wellness: The Healing Power of Surrender

May Mental Wellness: The Healing Power of Surrender

May Mental Wellness: The Healing Power of Surrender

by Jane “Goldie” Winn, MSS

Scripture: Isaiah 40:31
But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.

May is often a month filled with transition—school endings, schedule changes, financial pressures, and emotional fatigue from the year’s buildup. For many people, it quietly becomes one of the most mentally and emotionally overwhelming seasons.

That’s why this May’s mental wellness focus is simple but powerful: surrender.

Not surrender as in defeat—but surrender as in release. A conscious decision to stop carrying what was never meant to be carried alone.

What Surrender Really Means for Mental Wellness

In mental health terms, surrender is closely tied to acceptance, emotional regulation, and cognitive reframing. It is the practice of letting go of the illusion of control over everything around you.

Surrender does not mean you stop caring.
It means you stop trying to control what you cannot change.

For many people struggling with anxiety, burnout, or emotional overload, the mind becomes stuck in a cycle of “what if” and “if only.” Surrender breaks that cycle by grounding you in the present moment.

Why Surrender Is So Hard

Surrender sounds peaceful—but it often feels uncomfortable.

That’s because the brain is wired to seek control as a survival mechanism. When life feels uncertain, we try to manage outcomes, people, timing, and even emotions.

But mental wellness begins to shift when you realize:

  • Control is often an illusion
  • Overthinking does not equal problem-solving
  • Carrying everything mentally leads to burnout
  • Peace requires release, not resistance

Surrender is not weakness. It is emotional honesty.

Signs You May Need to Practice Surrender

You may be holding too tightly if you notice:

  • Constant overthinking or racing thoughts
  • Difficulty sleeping due to worry
  • Emotional exhaustion or irritability
  • Feeling responsible for everything and everyone
  • Trouble letting go of outcomes you cannot control

These are often signals that your mind and body are asking for rest—not more effort.

Practical Ways to Practice Surrender in Daily Life

Surrender is not just a mindset—it is a practice you build daily.

1. Pause and Acknowledge

Instead of pushing through stress, pause and name it:
“I am anxious right now, and I don’t have to fix everything at this moment.”

2. Replace Control with Trust

Shift your internal language from:

  • “I have to figure this out right now”
    to
  • “I will take the next right step”

3. Release Through Prayer or Reflection

For those who are faith-centered, surrender often becomes spiritual:
“God, I release what I cannot control and trust You with what I cannot see.”

4. Limit Mental Overloading

Reduce inputs that increase anxiety—doom scrolling, excessive planning, or constantly revisiting problems without solutions.

5. Practice Rest Without Guilt

Rest is not a reward for finishing everything. It is part of the healing process itself.

The Mental Health Benefits of Surrender

When surrender becomes a habit, several changes often follow:

  • Reduced anxiety and rumination
  • Improved emotional regulation
  • Better sleep and nervous system balance
  • Increased clarity in decision-making
  • Greater resilience during stress

Surrender creates space in the mind where peace can enter.

A Faith-Based Perspective on Surrender

For many, surrender is deeply spiritual. It is the act of placing burdens into God’s hands rather than carrying them alone.

One of the most grounding scriptures for mental wellness is:

“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.”  1 Peter 5:7

This is not just comfort—it is a mental reset. A reminder that you were never meant to carry everything by yourself.

Final Thought

May is not just about awareness—it is about permission. Permission to slow down. Permission to breathe. Permission to let go.

Surrender is not the end of strength.
It is often the beginning of peace.

Here is a wonderful ebook to help you:

The Healing Power of Surrender: A 30-Day Devotional Journey to Peace and Purpose by Jane “Goldie” Winn
You can download it today for just $9.99 and begin 30 days of transformation and lasting freedom. Click Here to buy The Healing Power of Surrender

Here for you,

Goldie

Forgiveness

Forgiveness

As we start the new year, it is very important we don’t carry any baggage from 2021 to 2022! It’s time to reset and have a fresh start.

Is there someone in your life you haven’t been able to forgive?

If so, now is the time to ask the Lord to show you how to truly let go and release the person (or persons) into His loving care.

We only hold ourselves hostage when we refuse to forgive. It isn’t that we forget the hurt we experienced, but when we forgive, we remember the offense in a “healing way!” It then allows us to love more freely and embrace the present with a new perspective.

I love how Nathan the prophet lovingly confronted King David about his sin with Bathsheba. Thankfully, David fully repented and poured his heart into the writing of Psalm 51. He was totally forgiven, and in the New Testament, he was referred to as “the man after God’s own heart.”

I leave you with this exhortation from Scripture: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”  (Ephesians 4:32) NIV

 

Here for you…

Life Coach Jane “Goldie” Winn, MSS

 

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For an encouraging read, RAINBOW IN THE NIGHT: A JOURNEY OF REDEMPTION, on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, or Kindle.

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Jane “Goldie” Winn’s Book Signing Event at The Brooklyn Cafe Show 8.20.21

Jane “Goldie” Winn’s Book Signing Event at The Brooklyn Cafe Show 8.20.21

Jane “Goldie” Winn, author of Rainbow in the Night: A Journey of Redemption, had her first book signing on August 20, 2021 at The Brooklyn Cafe in Boca Raton, Florida. 

Covid restrictions were in place, but there was an excellent turn out. After “Goldie” shared with the audience facts about her book and some of the “behind the scenes,” some people who had read her book came forward and shared the impact the book had on their lives. 

There was a great Q&A to follow with thought-provoking questions. There were giveaways and delicious refreshments! The ambiance was perfect, thanks to the amazing staff at The Brooklyn Cafe.

People bought books for themselves and as gifts for friends and family. A florist dropped off a gorgeous bouquet that happened to match the colors on the cover of the book! A fabulous time was had by all!

To get the book about my life story, you can buy RAINBOW IN THE NIGHT: A JOURNEY OF REDEMPTION on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, or Kindle.

Blessings,

Goldie

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Time to Reset for 2021

Time to Reset for 2021

Goldie’s Life Coach Tips for 2021:

  1. Stay in the gift of present living. This will decrease anxiety and the need to worry. Corrie Ten Boom said it well: “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.”
  2. Trust in the Lord’s faithfulness and sovereignty. Don’t focus on circumstances, and keep up the faith! He knows the end from the beginning!
  3. Forgive often and let go of past offenses. Keep short accounts.
  4. Maintain an attitude of gratitude, and remember praise reduces stress.
  5. Stay content. The apostle Paul reminds us that godly contentment is great gain.
  6. Choose “life giving” activities to help offset “life taking” events in your life. Make a list and choose at least one a day to improve your overall sense of well being.
  7. Exercise regularly, enjoy healthy eating (less processed foods, sugar, and lower carbohydrates).
  8. Sleep 7–8 hours a night, and take naps when your body needs them.
  9. Laugh often. Remember, “…he who laughs lasts longest.” (W.E. Nesom). Watching more comedy and less news will greatly improve your mood.
  10. Take up a new hobby, learn an instrument, or take an online class on a subject that interests you.
  11. Practice random acts of kindness. There is always someone who needs encouragement.
  12. Pray often, worship the Lord, stay in fellowship, and study the Bible.
  13. Don’t focus on looking through the rear view mirror at 2020, but instead, have a forward focus for an exciting 2021 with renewed hope!  

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28 (NIV)

Remember…God’s got this!

“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43:19 (NIV)

Please feel free to email me at goldalah@icloud.com

I’m here for you and please stay safe.

Jane “Goldie” Winn, MSS

Author of Rainbow in the Night: A Journey of Redemption

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Pain Points: Forgiveness

Pain Points: Forgiveness

FORGIVENESS IS “A PROCESS AND NOT AN EVENT”

In my book, “Rainbow in the Night: A Journey of Redemption,” I wrote about the forgiveness process in my own life. It was not easy and actually took many years of counseling and prayer before I could truly forgive the people in my life who hurt me. Now as a counselor and life coach, I can look back through the rear-view mirror and understand from a different perspective how very important it is for our spiritual and mental health to begin the process of forgiveness.

It is unhealthy to keep those hurt feelings locked up deep inside our hearts. If we harbor resentment for too long, it can turn into bitterness and rob us from living a joyful and peaceful life.

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Ephesians 4: 31-32 (NIV)

There are many examples of forgiveness in the Bible. One of my favorite passages is the story of King David and his sin of adultery with Bathsheba. That sin led to further sin as David manipulated circumstances and misused his power so that Bathsheba’s husband would be killed in battle. In the end, the Lord used the prophet Nathan to confront David with his sin. Thankfully, David repented, which we can read about both in Psalms 32 and 51.

When David repented, the Lord forgave him completely. It is clear in the New Testament that David’s sin was not mentioned, but instead, he was referred as a man after God’s own heart. That is true forgiveness and redemption.

There are two parts to forgiveness.

The first is admitting our sin, repenting, and asking the Lord to forgive us.

The second part is receiving the Lord’s forgiveness, which can be very difficult for many people.

In my case, there were a couple of sins that took me quite awhile before I could forgive myself. In order to get past that block, I needed to truly accept, at the heart level, Yeshua’s (Jesus’) death on the cross that covered my sins and set me free.

It’s also important to remember that forgiveness is not “forgetting” the wrong perpetrated against us (which could
include abuse). Most of the time, it means we need to seek and receive professional help, set healthy boundaries, and ask loved ones to pray for us. I tell my clients, that in time, we remember our painful past in a healing way so that the Lord can use us to help to others who might be stuck in their forgiveness process.

In my book, I talk about how the Lord helped me in a very specific way to forgive my mother. It was God’s grace that I was able to make peace with her before she died. We need to be “willing to be willing.” The Lord will do the rest as we allow Him to heal and set us free from the bondage of anyone we have not yet forgiven.

I will close with this Scripture that David penned after he was forgiven by the Lord:

“Blessed is the one whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered. Blessed is the one whose sin the Lord does not count against them and in whose spirit is no deceit.”
Psalm 32: 1-2 (NIV)

Remember, I am here for you…

Jane “Goldie” Winn, MSS

Author of Rainbow in the Night: A Journey of Redemption

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Here is a link to Goldie’s video on Pain Points: Forgiveness